A Mothers Story

A Mothers Story

I am a mother of four children, all grown up under the influence of violence through alcoholism in the family home. The children witnessed their father beating me up on many occasions while under the influence of alcohol, or his craving for alcohol. He also suffered from extreme jealousy which took the form of other types of violence.

After suffering many years of this I was of the opinion if I can’t beat him, I would be as well joining him. This led me into another type of nightmare that was to have much more damaging affects on me.

To cut a long story short I ended up suffering from alcoholism myself, which took me down a road of loneliness and deep depression. I could not face life on life’s terms. I could not face family, friends and neighbours and ended up in complete isolation in my own home. Alcoholism was chasing them all away.

An extended family member recognised my unbearable situation and through his experience with addiction and his own recovery, he asked me if I would consider talking to the Bill W Club Addiction Service. They are a group in Sligo which specialises in RECOVERY from all addictions. They offer Peer Support and Life Coaching service.

This service is free and in strict confidence. I agreed and we made arrangements for a member of staff to call to my home at around 5.30pm that evening. A member of staff called and sat down and had a cuppa tea while he listened to my story. After hearing what I had to say, he painted a picture in my mind of what I had gone through, and what was going to happen if I continued, and where I was going to end up.

He also took the time to paint a picture of the thoughts in my mind, and did his analogy of the alcoholic thinking He also shared some of his own experiences, which in turn took us to the point where I was asked to make a decision. Did I want to continue on the destructive path I was on, or try a new approach to life. One which could give me all that I ever wanted in terms of freedom from booze and the alcoholic life style.

It was not a hard choice given the picture that was painted for me. I chose freedom and was invited to become a member of Bill W Club. That was fourteen months ago. I now attend AA and other personal development groups in the Bill W Club. My life has changed for the better. I would go as far as to say they saved my life. I can only say, in my opinion, a miracle happened.

I now look forward to meeting my grandchildren and being a example to them, and hopefully through my own experiences, be able to guide them in the right direction in life. This I never dreamed would happen.

I have since been taught by the club how to become an interventionist myself, and I am proud to say that I have been in attendance on two occasions and assisted two other females back to reality. To watch and be part of such an occasion is overwhelming and God given.